"I grew up with a missing mum."

Silence. Questions. Strength you didn’t know you had.

missing Mum

finding Grace

by Marian Louise Lane

Missing Mother, Finding Grace is a memoir of absence and a guide to becoming whole.

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  • "Marian Louise has the rare gift of crafting her own painful journey into a beautiful and vulnerable guide to healing others’ pain. You will laugh; you will cry; you will be gently nourished as you read these pages. As you work through the reflective questions and apply the tools, you will find yourself transformed and renewed. Invite the Spirit of God to redeem your brokenness and make it your strength.”

    — Joanna Penny

  • “Raw and refreshingly honest with great, insightful questions asked about a subject not often talked about.”

    — Anna Neill (Early Vision Holder)

  • “Marian's journey invites the reader to make new observations and reinterpret their experiences with guided awareness that inspires each of us to discover hope, faith, and grace. It’s a resource that gently persuades self‑reflection and encourages the exploration of the role of mothers. It offers insights that deepen understanding of ourselves and nurture empathy for others.”

    — Gaylene Kingstone (Reclaimed mum)

  • “Today I felt hopeful as I could see a wheel going around in my head, I don’t have to be stuck. The motion is perpetual and strengthening happens along the way.”

    — Sharon M (The Grace Exemplar)

  • “Marian has bravely written a poignant memoir with practical wisdom that has helped her overcome, and will be encouraging to many.”

    — Virginia Martin (The Sage of Seasons)

  • “A beautiful, honest journey that helped me find grace for my mum and see her not just as ‘mother,’ but as a woman with her own story, struggles, and humanity.”

    — Charmaine Fiafia (Daughter finding Grace)

"The wound can become the exact place the light pours out.”

The Story

Discover the Healing Power of Grace in

‘Missing Mum, Finding Grace’

– Your Path to Wholeness Awaits!

Have you ever felt that lingering void, the quiet echo of a mother's absence shaping your life's journey? Whether through loss, emotional distance, overwhelming responsibilities, mental health struggles, or cultural upheaval, millions carry this hidden wound. But what if that pain could become your greatest source of strength? In "Missing Mum, Finding Grace," author Marian invites you on a transformative voyage of self-discovery, resilience, and divine restoration.

Imagine life as a bicycle wheel: smooth and balanced when intact, but wobbly and uncertain when damaged. Marian's poignant metaphor illustrates how a "missing mum" disrupts the hub—your emotional core—and weakens vital spokes: protection that shields your heart, nurture that feeds your soul, guidance that lights your way, and belonging that roots you in connection. Drawing on her own story and enriched with biblical wisdom, this book explores how factors such as gender, age, birth order, and temperament shape your experience, turning potential pitfalls into pillars of empathy and determination.

Rooted in faith, "Missing Mum, Finding Grace" positions the Holy Spirit as your ultimate Comforter and Helper, filling maternal gaps with undeserved grace. Scriptures like John 14:18—"I will not leave you as orphans"—come alive, offering hope and healing. The innovative Missing Mother Reflection Quiz helps you assess your unique story, while part V in the book, "Mending the Wheel," equips you with five practical tools: gratitude for survival, courage to face pain, strategies to stop self-sabotage, vision to dream big, and bold steps toward action.

Non-judgmental and inclusive, this ~200-page guide—also available soon in four ebooks—speaks to daughters, sons, and even "missing mums" themselves, fostering forgiveness and presence. Peppered with insights from experts like H. Norman Wright and Glennon Doyle, plus inspiring tales from figures like Prince William, it creates a community of shared triumph over grief.

Don't let absence define you. Embrace grace, mend your wheel, and ride into a future of purpose

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Uncover your strengths, and build a life not defined by what was missing but shaped by what is possible.

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